Dear Norman,
I think that if you look, you'll see similar proffering of bona fides whenever there is something that makes people uncomfortable about criticizing. You'll find them now on a thread for a ballad on the Metrical board.
Sometimes it is the writer who put others on the defensive and demands to know that some imaginary objectivity is in place; sometimes it comes from the others themselves.
It seems to me the same sorts of discussions happen in the larger world when charged subjects are involved. It may be unfortunate, though you have told the world about an aspect of your sexual responses as if it were pertinent. Maybe it is. Maybe certain discomforts are eased in this way. I do think you are, though, too narrow in coming to your grand conclusion and may have squandered your confession of discomfort.
Best,
Marcia
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