John -- I don't know what the poet intends, but I can tell you how I saw it.
I think what the men are laughing or scoffing at is the narrator's easy ability to show her feelings -- she has no problems embracing love, talking about it, and showing her emotions. This type of man, on the other hand, cannot show his feelings easily let alone talk about them. So, if you have a kind of relationship with a cold-window man, how do you take it "to the next level" and deepen it when the man is so closed up and wary? He wants you, but he doesn't, and above all he doesn't want to talk about it. You feel the attraction between the two of you, you know he does it too, but how can it "get a move on" and develop when he's stuck in his cold window? The poem is about cold-window men in general, but it seems to zoom in on a particular man at the end, one whom the narrator is involved with -- hence the message.
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