Thanks for the thoughts on how this situation is different.
Okay, even with my most charitable squinting I can't see much redeeming artistic value in the following menstrual-oral-sex poem, although the author seems to consider it humorously tongue in...well, not exactly cheek:
Keven C. Cole [no, whoops, he seems to be the journal's editor--poet is Damon Norco],
"Love Lines"
I suppose this sort of response could be related to so-called
cute aggression, which seems to be a similar struggle to regulate overwhelming positive feelings by expressing strong negative feelings; or it could even be analogous to certain types of art vandalism. Dickinson's work can certainly be emotionally overwhelming.
In general, diminishing a female poet's power over him by reducing her, in his own work, to a bangable bimbo might make a heterosexual male poet feel he's in control of the situation.
[Edited to add a #NotAllMen, lest someone feel offended even though it should be obvious that I'm not talking about all heterosexual male poets, and to correct the attribution.]