[Max Goodman]

I agree with what I think Bob said, but since you're understanding him differently, I'll try to put it another way.

The speaker of the poem says that "at times [i] make our homelife hell," but doesn't share enough to help me agree with her. I'm left with the feeling that she's beating herself up over nothing.

The husband comes off worse than the speaker seems to realize. She seems grateful that he makes her laugh and loves her even when she's down. This reader sees a man who's convinced his wife that feeling miserable makes her a bad person, (because she's) a nuisance to him. The conceit of the poem has the speaker viewing her struggles through the lens of being a good wife; she's less concerned about her own feelings than about her ability to be the right partner (rather than the "other" one).