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Anne, I think you misunderstand me. I'm not arguing in favor of treating women like animals or mere sex objects. I'm questioning your assumption that a man who "likes it" a particular way (this way, that way, in an airplane, on a trapeze, whatever) is a misogynist. (At least, that's what I got from your post - sorry if I've misread.) A person's likes and dislikes, IMO, are much more complicated than that. You can't just say to yourself, "Intellectually, morally, I believe such-and-such, so from here on in, I resolve to like sex this way, as it's more compatible with my world view." It just doesn't work that way. That's all I'm saying.
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Rose,
Perhaps we are talking past each other. Because it is not the 'doggie syle' sexual position that makes me feel that this poem is about a man who at leasts (dislikes) women. That point is woven throughout the whole poem, as I read it. The N. is speculating and ranting throughout about lack of COMMUNICATION or at least his desire not to "connect", "commune" with her except on a physical level. Perhaps the author will tell us if this is what she was trying to convey or not.
"Yak, yak, yak" is not funny to me - it is a slant against women because they talk more than males. The poem screams, shut up and let's fuck. And I find that insulting. Not the sexual position, Rose - but the dominating spirit coming from the male is for me a turn off. For me, THAT is the characteristic that ruins a man. I realize there are many men in the world like this - and apparently I have anger issues with them
They can all kiss my ass (if you know what I mean).
Anne